Is Beauty Really In The Eyes of the Beholder?

  Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.

What is your definition of beautiful? Do you equate being beautiful with the physical, outer trappings that constitute your physical body? What do you say about yourself when you look in the mirror?
Many women are highly critical of themselves. We complain about our weight, our hair, our looks, our shape, and the list can go on and on. But stop, think about yourself for just a moment. Do you realize that when you criticize yourself, you are in essence saying that you are not good enough? You are saying that you are less than. You are saying God made a huge mistake when He made you. That somehow He must have gotten distracted somewhere along the way.
Ladies, I understand wanting to be in shape, wanting to look good, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. In fact, I encourage exercise, eating properly and presenting yourself at your best at all times. However, when you talk about beauty, it is more than what is seen on the outside.
I am sure you have heard that a person can be oh so beautiful on the outside, but tore up from the floor up ugly on the inside. That means, ugly when it comes to your personality, the way you treat others, even the way you treat yourself.
You can be the most gorgeous woman walking around, looking like America’s Next Top Model, or dressed like you just stepped out of the latest women’s fashion magazine. You can look like a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model, but…if you have an ugly attitude and disposition then your outer beauty is quickly destroyed, and results to you being less than what God has truly designed you to be.
I am all for keeping myself up, not only in my health, but in my overall appearance. However, let me remind you that real beauty truly does come from within. Real beauty is who you are when no one is looking. Real beauty is who you are when you see another human being in need, and how you respond to that individual. Real beauty equals being proud (not conceited) of who you are no matter what. Real beauty never fades. Who you are on the inside radiates on the outside whether that comes out in a negative aspect or a positive aspect.
I wrote a two-book series (novels). The first book in the series is titled Beautiful Ugly. The sequel to Beautiful Ugly is called True Beauty. These books tell the stories of three best friends named Kayla, Envy, and Layla. Each one of these women struggles with the ‘woman they see in the mirror’. They have difficult times accepting themselves the way they are.
For instance, Layla is morbidly obese so she settles for men to use and abuse her. She refuses to look at how gifted she is as a singer and how loving she is as a woman. How many of us negate our own gifts and talents because we feel like we do not measure up? We feel somewhat ugly and maybe even tainted.
The other friend is Kacie. Kacie has a physical disability. Like Layla, Kacie battles with the demons of low self-consciousness and low self-esteem. Because she hates the woman she sees in the mirror, she has one child after another, after another, after another, after another, after another, after another, and after another. Yes, seven children, seven baby daddies, and never a husband. If only she could see that she is more than the deformity of her disability. If only Kacie would open her eyes and see that she is  compassionate, forgiving, and hard working. That she deserves the best life has to offer.
Finally, there is the third friend. Successful, beautiful, got it going on Envy. On the outside Envy’s life appears to be perfect, yet, no one knows the deep, dark demons that torment Envy mentally and emotionally, to the point that she uses others to make her feel better about herself. You probably know someone like one of these ladies. You may even be one of them.
I believe, like there is a thin line between love and hate, there is a thin line between beautiful and ugly. It’s all about who you choose to see when you look deep within yourself. I implore you to love yourself. Accept that you and no one on this earth is perfect. It’s not about who looks better than you, or who has more than you. It’s not about being over weight, underweight, short, tall, pimples or having the clearest of skin. It’s not about the ability to carry the latest designer purse, wear the best designer clothes. It’s not about those things that will one day fade away. Outward beauty should not be predicated on what someone else says about you. It’s about the love you display. It’s all about loving yourself in spite of your shortcomings.
Through their life experiences, Kacie, Layla, and Envy had to come to the realization that their physical shell was not what needed a makeover. One by one, they began to understand from all that happened in their lives that they needed spiritual beauty makeovers to remove the ugliness of sin in their lives. A makeover that only God, Himself can dispense.
I hope that from this point forward each of you reading today’s blog post will reevaluate yourself. Know that you have a choice to see the good in you. Accept yourself for being the special woman that you are. Choose to love yourself so you can love others. Affirm that you are unique, you are one of a kind; you are perfectly designed and divinely created. There is no one else quite like you. That alone makes you beautiful!
I like this quote by the late actress, Audrey Hepburn. It reads, “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
Beautiful? Ugly? Which one are you? Which one will you choose to be? Only you and the woman in the mirror can answer this question.


We Ain’t the Brontes Blog Tour

About the Author
   Rosalyn McMillan is a dedicated wife and devoted mother of four, and grandmother of five, who is currently surviving both rheumatoid arthritis and Alopecia Totalis, a disease that causes bodily hair loss. Rosalyn worked as a sewing machine operator at Ford Motor Company for nineteen years before medically retiring. She used the challenges in her own life as inspiration to become a successful novelist. Rosalyn loves to research newsworthy stories and use them as sub-plots in her real-life novels.
    Her first novel, Knowing, debuted as a highly successful initial achievement. Knowing sold over 70,000 hardcover copies and over 400,000 paperbacks. It was a national best-seller and charted admirably on many book lists.
    Rosalyn then followed the success of her first book with One Better, then Blue Collar Blues, The Flip Side of Sin. This Side of Eternity was Rosalyn’s fifth novel; the plot centered around the sanitation workers strike in 1968.
    Rosalyn remains a loyal student of her profession by reading two to three hundred books a year. She feels that it’s imperative for an author to keep abreast of the New York Times best-sellers as well as fresh voices of fiction.
    Currently, she lives in Memphis, TN, with her husband, John, where they relax fishing in their stocked pond.
    Some of her favorite authors are John Sanford, Alice Walker, Maya Angelou, John Grisham, Toni Morrison, Eric Jerome Dickey, Kimberla Lawson-Roby and Terry McMillan.
    Visit the full blog tour and LIVE Radio schedule at

One on One with Rosalyn

Q. Rosalyn what made you choose to enter the literary industry?
A. I was always an avid reader, and so when my sister, Terry's, success in Waiting to Exhale became a phenomenon, I chose to enter the field, too.
Q. What relief, if any, does writing provide for you? 
A. I've always been very creative.  Writing lets me expound on several subject matters and plots that constantly bombard my mind.
Q. What do you want readers to get from reading your books?
A.  Enlightened about a subject.  They get inspiration and motivation.  I also want them to feel the emotion that my characters feel.
Q. How many books have you written? Name them.
A.  Seven.  We Ain't the Brontes, Midnight Pawn, Knowing, One Better, Blue Collar Blues, The Flip Side of Sin, and This Side of Eternity
Q. You haven't been on the literary scene in a while. Why? What was the deciding factor for your return?
A. I couldn't get a contract.  I was blacklisted.  My return happened because  a publisher decided to take a chance on me.
Q. What future plans do you foresee in your literary career.
A. I see myself as a New York Times best-selling author, and as a publisher of e-books.
Q. Is this book based on true events?
A. Some.  Like Charity in the book, I couldn't get a contract and had to sell my house.  The rest is fictional.
Q. What advice can you offer to aspiring writers?
A. Be consistent in your work habits.  Work it like a nine to five job.  Do your homework about writing fiction or non-fiction.  Take Creative Writing and Advanced Creative Writing classes.
Q. Where do your story ideas come from?
A. From the newspaper and the nightly news.  I also get story ideas from my friends who want me to tell their unique story.
Q. What is your definition of success in the literary industry?
A. Making the New York Times best-seller list and commanding a large fee for speaking engagements
About the Book
     Bestselling author Rosalyn McMillan narrates the tale of two literary sisters that will make readers ask: How much of this is based on actual events?
    The relationship between Charity Evans and her sister Lynzee Lavender brings new meaning to the term “sibling rivalry.” Lynzee writes science fiction, and her New York Times bestseller status gets her into A-list parties and fattens her bank account. She can’t stand the fact that Charity is a published author too, though she swears that Charity is nowhere near as good.
     It seems like the publishing industry might agree, because Charity is having trouble getting her contract renewed. Is it possible that Lynzee has had her blacklisted? With her savings dwindling, Charity struggles to pay her bills, and the pressure is putting incredible strain on her marriage. Things only get worse when Lynzee drops a bomb: she reveals that Charity’s husband is the father of a child she gave up for adoption years ago.
    Charity’s life goes into a tailspin as she struggles with the shocking news. Should she tell her husband about the child he never knew he had, or would that be more drama than their already fragile marriage can handle? Charity chooses to fight back against her sister in a very creative way, but the fallout from all this drama might leave plenty of casualties in its wake.

Purchase the Book Online at:

Book Review 

Charity and her sister Lynzee are both writers but instead of having each others’ backs, they are at constant odds in more ways than one. Charity, inspired to write because of her sister’s great success, hopes to gain the respect and support of Lynzee, a successful, millionaire, bestselling New York Times author. Instead of finding support  from Lynzee, Charity is faced with blackmail, kept secrets and being blacklisted in the literary industry, by none other than her sister.

We Ain’t the Brontes is more than a book about sibling rivalry, it reveals the depths of jealousy, deception, anger, betrayal, and non-forgiveness. It shows that your worst enemy isn’t always on the outside looking in, they can be as close as the air you breathe - and true friendship can come from the most unlikeliest sources.

It's good to have Rosalyn McMillan back on the literary scene with We Ain't the Brontes. 

Take a sneak peak at the fun you can have with author Rosalyn McMillan.

For More Information:
Visit the author online at
View the blog tour schedule at